Who am I now that I am a mother? How does this fit with the person I was?
I don’t know about others but I struggled with the new title of being someone’s mama and how this fit with my identity.
I had this conflicting feeling of being exactly the same but not at all the person I was before.
It has been painful and hard at times but I think with having kids you’re given a wonderful opportunity to reevaluate everything. You can scramble to try and pick all the pieces of ‘life before kids’ back up or you can take your time and only pick up those pieces that still fit for you. Sometimes it’s a quick process, sometimes it takes years.
For me it’s been a journey and I’m beginning to emerge with a clearer sense of what I want in this phase of my life, what my values and priorities are and what no longer fits.
What I’ve come to realise is this is a totally NORMAL and common part of becoming a parent. You are not at all alone if you feel like everything has been flipped on it’s head and nothing in your life quite fits the way it used to - friendships, relationships, careers, life goals, interests, values/beliefs, these can all change significantly in the process of becoming a parent.
Did you experience this when you became a parent? I’d love to hear your experience below if you’re open to sharing👇🏼
